Tony Amos makes a very interesting point about the role of women in contemporary society; she says, “Sexy women are everywhere: on billboards, magazines, but real women must use the strength of their voices to be heard.” At first glance, it may seem that such a statement is hardly applicable in the modern age of feminism. Nevertheless, it seems that it is not so wide from the mark. Naturally, to some extent, the feminist movement has managed to break certain gender stereotypes, but their remnants are still very noticeable, and they can be easily traced in the mens attitude towards the opposite sex.
It will not be an exaggeration to say that the vast majority of men still look at strong, talented, and intelligent women with some apprehension or even fear. Certainly, in present-day American society, such a form of prejudice does not manifest itself very clearly, but it still can be observed. For instance, if any woman achieves success, it seems to be something very unusual. Probably, the main reason is that we (men) are still very accustomed to this false superiority. This illusion, which we still cherish, is the main obstacle that still prevents women from fulfilling their potential.
Another issue that we need to discuss is the “perfect” image of a woman, at least from a male perspective. It is necessary to answer the question of what men value most in women. Traditionally, it is declared that we attach primary importance to beauty (both spiritual and physical), intelligence, independence, kindness, compassion, empathy, etc. Unfortunately, very often, it is just savage hypocrisy. It stands to reason that we must not generalize while talking about such a sensitive issue, and there are men for whom such qualities as, for instance, intelligence, strength, independence are important, but at times it is just make-believe. In point of fact, special emphasis is usually placed on sexuality and obedience. These qualities have now turned into commodities, which are in enormous demand. Consequently, “sexy women are everywhere; on billboards, magazines,” etc., though it should be vice versa.
Yet, if we ascribe this problem only to the opposite sex, we will surely make a very blatant mistake. The thing is that many women also do not view independence or strength as necessary. They believe that that they should only meet the standards set by men. In addition to that, every woman, who dares contradict their principles, is often made an outcast. Naturally, it is not officially declared, but occasionally, a woman, intending to achieve success in the spheres, which has always been “male,” is regarded as some white crow even by other women. Evidently, such a concept as “real woman” can be interpreted from various standpoints. It turns out the struggle carried on by the representatives of the feminist movement was not necessary for some representatives of the fair sex.
Therefore, it is quite possible for us to arrive at the conclusion that the main hindrance preventing “real women” from achieving success is the attitude of the opposite sex, particularly their fear of strong, intelligent, or independent women. However, we cannot limit this issue only to men; such an approach does not reflect all the complexity of the problem; particularly, one cannot overlook such aspect womens fear of independence. There is a very curious paradox; some women are quite content with social status, and they do not intend to exceed limits imposed on them.