How to balance work and family and have a successful outcome
For the family to succeed, one has to achieve a balance between work commitment and family issues. Both of these require the same attention and importance. Therefore, the well-being of the family will depend on how one balances these two issues.
Partners success in terms of employment and higher earnings, is important in facilitating marriage stability and success. Men who opt to balance household work and childcare, for instance, do not find it easy to combine that, with breadwinning. Therefore partners in the family, need to create new options for themselves to work for changes in the public and corporate world.
Husbands today are looking at dedication to occupational achievement not as an indicator of ones success. They are rather choosing less competitive careers and spending more time with their families.
Some families opted to choose the two-earner work/family options. This is advantageous to them as this arrangement allows them to work and also commit themselves to the family. This is advantageous in the sense that one doesnt have to work for longer hours because he or she is the sole breadwinner. The two partners share the bread-winning role. Therefore the family is also given consideration.
Career-oriented people can hire other people to take care of their children. This may be done by providing paid care at home by a nanny who may live or come to the house daily. The parents may also decide to take their children to daycares. They can also choose to give that responsibility to their relatives. This is called market approach to child care.
Another approach that may be used to balance work and family is by using the parenting approach to child care. Family care is shared by partners by structuring their work. They work on a part-time basis. They may also opt for shift or periodic care. One parent may work at night and the other during the day.
Surviving communication
The nine guidelines for bonding fights do work because it is about tolerating one another in the relationship. It is about accepting a partner for who he or she is. It is about being open and sincere, telling them their mistakes without making themselves appear perfect. In cases where one is the cause of the problem, it is advisable that one agrees to his or her mistake and be willing to change. The relationship is given first priority as opposed to self. The guidelines ensure that the arguments are ended in the best way possible and not postponed.
Family violence
Lamana and Reidman (2003) state that family violence exists in every family, for instance intimate partner violence. Several factors cause or contribute to this. Most men who abuse women are unemployed. This suggests that they do it trying to compensate for their general feeling of powerlessness and inadequacy in their jobs and marriages. This is especially when the wife is employed.
Men may use their physical expressions of supremacy to compensate for their lack of occupational success or satisfaction. A man may not want to be seen as of a lesser ego. This encourages man-to-woman violence.
Some men resort to coercive power in the family when they lack this in their occupations. They chose violence to maintain a control over their wives. They do this in trying to become independent of the relationship that binds them in the family (Knox and Schacht, 2010).
Fidelity is another factor that contributes to family violence. This is so when one of the partners becomes unfaithful to the other partner. The other partner who has been faithful may decide to become unfaithful or turn violent for being cheated too. Violence that results from infidelity is especially recorded when the wife has become unfaithful. The husband to teach her a lesson may decide to beat the wife. This may result in serious injuries.
Other factors may contribute to family violence. One factor for example is drug and substance abuse. This may happen when one is under influence of a drug. If the other partner tries to intervene, it results in violence because the one involved looks at it as interference on personal issues.
Lack of financial stability, lack of parental attention to children and relative interference in a relationship could also contribute to family violence.
References
Knox, D., & Schacht, C. (2010). An Introduction to Marriage and the Family. Belmont: Wadsworth.
Lamana, M. A., & Riedman, A. (2003). Marriage and Families: Making Choices in a Diverse Society. 9th ed. Belmont: Wadsworth.