There was a time when I participated in club meetings where everyone seemed to be reluctant about my ideas. I was criticized for practically anything I would say, and it significantly affected me on both emotional and creative levels. Nevertheless, I have always witnessed that the club’s advisor would never pay attention to those remarks. She remained calm and tried to investigate the situation to navigate the group through the conflict and make sure that there were no discontented club members left. This strategy seemed to work efficiently, as the group would subsequently move forward and forget about the prior conflicts to achieve shared objectives. When I started using this approach to resolving conflicts in my personal life, I found out that it could be one of the most efficient ways to help encounter participants to overcome their misunderstandings. Therefore, I am grateful to my former club advisor for being so patient and considerate.
The leadership trait that I exhibit when I am using the same approach to conflict resolution nowadays is intelligence. The idea is that I synthesize all the available information to make the most reasonable decision and remain objective irrespective of who is involved in the encounter. Everything I learn about conflicts allows me to create a vision for those involved to help them alleviate the willingness to remain hostile.
As for the respective behavioral dimension that best describes my approach to lollipop moments related to resolving conflicts, I would mention the concern for people. There is nothing more important than interpersonal relationships, so it is critical to make sure that individuals involved in the conflict are going to focus on each other’s points of view and become more empathetic toward each other. I will never give up on my lollipop moment because it is hard to resolve conflicts when both sides are motivated to criticize each other instead of providing support.