In every engagement, whether financial, religious or relationship, there must be something that the parties expect from each other. While some people struggle to leave up to these expectations, others fail to do so, bringing in the issue of disappointment, a case that arises from unfulfilled expectations. These disappointments are quite common in the field of relationships, where the male or the female fails to meet the expectations. Worth noting is that while some of the males’ and females’ expectations are similar, others differ. This paper compares and contrasts these expectations as they stand out in a relationship engagement. Both expect the relationship to bear fruits at the end.
Comparing
Every person, whether sane or delirious, wishes to reap something good from his efforts, and parties in a relationship are not an exception. Research shows that “During the early days of the relationship, each of the parties wishes to get the answer of whether the relationship will lead to marriage” (Mark 7). This scenario features marriage, as not only the fruit of study but also as another expectation shared by both parties. Both parties expect commitment from each other.
If commitment is not the expectation of both, then there is no relationship but a real-hell-ship. Is it not a lie for people who claim that they are in relationships yet show no commitments? If the readers’ answer is no, then they will never get lost because they do not know where they are heading. Love is obvious and the most crucial expectation for both parties. It acts as the foundation of all authentic relationships. Jamieson asserts, “Love is the basis of all genuine relationships” (4). Infidelity has seen the end of many relationships, indicating the crucial link that faithfulness makes in a relationship as expected from both parties. The golden rule seems to apply much in this subject as each party strives to give out what he/she expects to get in return. However, differences in expectations still stand out in relationships. While the male expects sharing in a relationship, the female expects getting.
Contrasting
As a fact, both parties stand an equal chance of participating in nurturing the relationship. Vocabularies like giving or getting ought not to appear anywhere in a relationship dictionary. However, the females seem to have faked their own that bears no sharing but receiving only. To sum up this nonsense, males have even sought mathematical support for their expectations because mathematically, where there is a relationship there must be some sharing. In addition, while the male expects the female to contribute towards the expenses incurred in relationship development, the female expects the male to cater for them alone. All males, caught financially unstable during the last valentines’ day occasion, can testify what they encountered from their partners. Devotees of the subject of relationship declare the differences in expectations, between the male and female, the root causes of the evident disappointments.
Conclusion
Relationships play a very crucial role, not only for human beings but also for other animals, with the hippopotamus serving as the best illustration. The related hippos will not only abstain from conflicts with each other but also mating. If they can afford to live within the brackets of these expectations, why then does man, with a rational mind, fail to do so? Though the males’ and the females’ expectations may differ, as aforementioned, with some differences interfering with the relationship, a little common sense can save the day. Therefore, if one wants to cultivate good terms with his/her relationship partner, he/she should expect nothing because many conflicts arise from unfulfilled expectations.
Works Cited
Jamieson, David. Male and Female Expectations in a Relationship. New York: Word Press, 1998. Print.
Mark, Joan. Male vs. Female Expectations. West Virginia: WVA, 1995. Print.