A good relationship is based on love, trust, respect, honesty, and all the virtues that human beings need to co-exist. For instance, when people respect each other then great relationships are formed since respect builds a strong foundation in any relationship. If these virtues are not honored, then this becomes the beginning of ruining a good relationship. Conventional minds have always limited their interpretation of the word relationship and love to romantic relationships only. However, this perspective is only one among the many types of relationships that exist. In this paper we examine relationships of all aspects bringing together mutual friends, intimate relationships, or even between family members. All of these relationships are based on the aforementioned virtues whose absence ruins a relationship. Another aspect or perspective that is possible but not covered in this paper is negative relationships that are based on complete opposites of these virtues. Such a relationship is common among enemies.
It is through communication that relationships are formed; therefore this communication should be used appropriately to sustain the formed relationships. Human beings communicate using language and it is through language that relationships are sustained or ruined. Good relationships are ruined if the involved parties do not use the appropriate language. This reflects the virtues that are needed to co-exist. For instance, if one respects someone, he/she will use the correct language to communicate. Lack of proper communication technique results in fights and break up. Inappropriate language includes using remarks that are hurtful to the other person. Again communication is crucial in any relationship, as it is through it that strong bonds are formed. Therefore the appropriate language should be used; if not then this becomes one way of ruining a good relationship. For instance, negative comments will ruin a good relationship. Negative comments bring negative feelings in the. Healthy language should be used in the relationship as this will help to develop healthy feelings, compliments, encouragement, support should be given to avoid the downfall of relationships. This clearly shows that if communication is poor in any relationship, then this is the very first step in ruining a good relationship. Not only is communication should be healthy, but also constant. Marriage and relationship counselors have always quoted the absence o communication as the major factor contributing to partners falling out. Lack of communication can be facilitated by distance where partners are far away from each other. If in the process of remaining away from each other they do not update one another of their well-being or the general situation of affairs on one’s end, then trouble starts brewing.
Another way in which one can ruin a good relationship is by being ungrateful. Everyone wants to be appreciated and if this is not done, then the bond existing between partners in a relationship is threatened. Every person should feel loved and cared for and this is only possible if people learn to appreciate each other and the little things that make them special and unique. For instance, when people in a relationship concentrate on the negative qualities of their partners, they tend not to notice the good qualities and be grateful. To have a good relationship people should give attention to the good qualities of their partners. But if one wants to ruin a good relationship then they should not be grateful. We take a situation where one concentrates on the things that nag them about their partner, and then they will have nothing positive to say about them. In return, one will concentrate on the undesirable qualities of the partner and this will result in less love, appreciation, kindness and will result in a bad relationship. So if one wants to ruin a good relationship, they should be ungrateful to their partners. This is because it is human nature to feel loved, wanted, appreciated, and special. Children are the best example we have who pinpoint the necessity of appreciation and being grateful for their achievements. In doing so, we dispel the fear of loneliness and lack of self-worth. Any relationship with this kind of quality cannot be a good relationship and therefore cannot last for long.
Another way of ruining a good relationship is by treating your partner as an unequal partner. In any healthy relationship, each partner should be treated equally and should be able to contribute equally in any decision-making. This refers to the virtues mentioned earlier, that is each partner should be treated as a worthy entity. For one to ruin a good relationship, he/she should stop treating the partner as an equal partner and start making decisions without consulting the other partner. This situation will result in feelings of being treated as an inferior partner in the relationship. A healthy relationship involves the parties involved discussing every situation that affects their lives. So if one wants to ruin a good relationship, then he/she should start making decisions without consulting the other person. This kind of situation will ruin a good relationship because one person will feel less important. And therefore if one feels less important, he/she will feel less loved, cared for, wanted, respected, and special. These feelings cannot sustain a relationship let alone a good relationship.
As stated earlier a lot is required to sustain a good relation and a good relationship can be ruined by very minor things which are quite important in any relationship. For instance, being grateful helps in building a good relationship. If people are ungrateful, then they cannot co-exist, this is because we all have weaknesses, no one is perfect, so if people concentrate on the imperfections, then great relationships are ruined. People should learn to appreciate the relations that they have and learn to live with their weaknesses. Good relationships are ruined by people living with the virtues that are required of human beings. If these virtues are not honored then good relationships are ruined.