Domestic violence is one of the worldwide crises which are affecting marriage and families. This poses the greatest threat to the general behavior of the people’s lives. The society in which we live has for many decades endeavored to conceal the reality of domestic violence. Although in the past, people were traditionally well behaved and thus leniency and respect that quenched the anger was abundant. This is not meant to mean that torture and family abuse were things and acts unheard of. Family violence could be provoked by either one of the parents or even a child of that family. This family violence is commonly associated with men, and research has given more evidence on this. This is quite well articulated to the greatest obstacle related to gender inequality. (McIntyre, 1984)
Nowadays, family violence is quite a common phenomenon for both old and younger married men and women. Younger married women at the age of thirteen and twenties are at great risk of family violence. Men’s violence toward their wives has impacted their families’ progress mostly. Family violence takes many forms which include sexual abuse, physical assaults, and murder, emotional as well as restriction of freedoms and rights, coercion, and threats. Most of these violent acts have been reported to have been as a result of misuse of alcohol or drugs. High percentages of violent reports have been due to excessive drinking or from people addicted to alcohol.
The majority of rape cases have been observed to be a pre-planned projects. it occurs as indoor raping exclusively by men towards their wives. This is termed violence against women because there is no desire for mutual feeling. The perpetrator may either want to show that the woman is subordinate to him i.e. He tries to demonstrate how powerful over his wife. (Grann & Fazel 2004)
Family violence portrays a bad image of a family. Psychologically, men and women involved in family violence find disturb by negative questions in their daily life. They are seen to be neurotic and poor coppers. They become obsessed with things that are happening to their partner’s lifestyle rather than getting engage with developmental projects. This leads them in controlling the behavior of the other partner and this deters personal concentration on the matter of paramount importance. They are also affected such that they partner with those individuals with quake behaviors so that they may satisfy their comfort and steal their minds from the family problem realities.
While there are enormous reports of intimate partner homicides, murders, rapes, and assaults, it is important to note that victims of all this violence find it very difficult to explain the matter and incidents to their friends. They view this as something shameful of disclosing family issues to the public. This is most very common with men because the man in his thinking capacity does not admit to overpowering always by his counterpart female partner. This makes it very hard for men victims to air their problems for assistance. (Morrell, 2004)
Furthermore, children are not exceptional about the psychological effect due to family violence. When husband and wife expose the violent action to their children, they make the child learn the kind of life that they lead. The emotions of the children may be triggered and this causes either to develops a negative attitude against his /her parents. The picture that is formed back in his medulla oblongata remains a stumbling block for his future reasoning and planning. (McIntyre, 1984)
As I conclude, family violence should be discouraged for its impacts are enormously and pervasively destructive. So partner should get into controllable action which would not lead to violence.
Reference:
Grann, M. & Fazel S. (2004): Substance misuse and violent crime: Swedish population study.
McIntyre, D. (1984): Domestic violence: a case of disappearing victim, ‘Australian Journal of Family Therapy, vol.5 no. 4 pp. 249-58.
Morrell, R. (2004): Ending gender-based violence: A call for global action to involve men. Stockholm.