Introduction
Friendship is one of the most precious things we have in our life. There is a strong necessity in someone, who would support, assist, give an advice, or lend some money at least. This could be only a close friend. It is often hard to find real friend in the modern life, as people often pretend, become insincere, etc. So it becomes not an easy task to discover a friend out of all this insincerity and hypocrisy.
Value that is stated in friendships is frequently the result of a friend showing the following on a steady ground:
- Trust
- Honesty
- Sympathy
- Mutual understanding
What Friendship Is
First of all, I would like to mention, that introducing somebody as a “friend” converses more promise to what one possibly mean applying this word. It takes time for somebody to call another person a friend, and if it happens, these two persons become the participants of each other’s intimate circles of communication.
For me, friendship is one of those unusual things which fit in the temple. But one is not aware of that type of friendship; it is necessary to study it. Friendship is a great skill. Love has an original instinct behind it; friendship has no original instinct behind it. Friendship is a matter of consciousness; love is absolutely unconscious.
As far as I can judge, a friendship is probable only between two open souls. Then one is open to the other, tempting to the other, then one is constantly an incitement. How can people be friendly? If ego is on the first place there is no credibility of friendship. This way friendship becomes just a mask. To my mind, the original character of life is like a jungle: the big animal eats the smaller one. Even if one pretends to be friendly, in jungle (within people with ego on the first place) it looks like show, coldblooded tactics, or at least diplomacy. No one can be a friend unless ego evaporates. Once ego is taken off, the entire life has an excellence of friendship. Then people become friendly, friendly to everybody, as nothing else matters.
How friendship is Significant for Me
Friendship is regarded to be the purest love. It is the peak form of love where nothing is required, any situation, where one just enjoys helping and offering assistance. One obtains much ‑ but that seems insignificant, and that happens of its own agreement. Friends never own each other. The most essential thing in friendship is to provide entire freedom to the friend to be himself. There is a faith, there is no requirement to control or dominate; there is no necessity to bind a friend by circumstances. Actually, only trust joins two friends.
Everybody would agree that friendship has its own attractiveness, and if anyone can take pleasure in it, it is in some regard better than a love issue. I consider that love issue is always nervous. There are instances of contentment but they are often few. There are also lots of unhappy instances. A friendship is a more concrete matter; it is based on a more solid ground. Friendship has a deeper balance than love. Friendship someone is much more important in this life than oneself; someone else has turned to be more precious.
Conclusion
A ruddy drop of manly blood
The surging sea outweighs,
The world uncertain comes and goes,
The lover rooted stays.
I fancied he was fled,
And, after many a year,
Glowed unexhausted kindliness
Like daily sunrise there.
My careful heart was free again, —
O friend, my bosom said,
Through thee alone the sky is arched,
Through thee the rose is red,
All things through thee take nobler form,
And look beyond the earth,
And is the mill-round of our fate
A sun-path in thy worth.
Me too thy nobleness has taught
To master my despair;
The fountains of my hidden life
Are through thy friendship fair. (Emerson, 2000)
As for me, this short verse reveals the very essence of friendship. It is noble, pleasant giving, joyful… Any epithet may be given to it. Inspite of the fact, that all the peoples praised friendship as the greatest moral value, they considered that “real friendship” is rather infrequent thing, and imagined it as an ideal lost in the past. As German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer once noted “real friendship is one of the things, like gigantic sea serpents. It is absolutely unknown are they imagined, or really exist somewhere”
References
Ralph Waldo Emerson, Atkinson B., Oliver M. (2000) “The Essential Writings of Ralph Waldo Emerson” Modern Library; Modern Library Pbk. Ed edition.