The issue of not being able to express one’s emotions and talk is deeply rooted in today’s society, and Rudi Francisco helps to understand its causes and how to overcome it. The silence is most often an expression of insecurity and inability to share part of the problems with people one cares about for fear of not being heard. It is a huge problem that leads to a deterioration of a person’s emotional state, and that can destroy relationships and personality.
When a person experiences unpleasant and difficult emotions there is no magic way to stifle them. However, there is one tool that everybody can turn to – try to find a solution to the issue. Sometimes a common voicing of what the person feels is helpful and comforting. Despite this, people are often attracted to reserved people who seem to have excellent self-control. In close relationships, the inability to express them leads to the fact that it is difficult for such a person to understand and accept his partner’s feelings. Rudi Francisco insists that most people find it easier to hide their problems behind a smile than to discuss them (Zidarević 24). There are several reasons for this, but the chief among them is fear of showing vulnerability.
People are afraid to discuss the situation because they expect it to get worse. Yes, things may be bad now, but if you try to discuss something, there will be a scandal and it will only get worse. This is often what happens – when violence, especially physical violence, becomes the last argument. Therefore, silence seems like a good strategy, but Rudi Francisco explains that people confuse strategy and tactics (Zidarević 24). Silence is precisely a tactic and can be quite appropriate and useful, but it is a temporary, situational solution. On the strategic level, silence is a dead end, and if you get there, it will only get worse. The modern world is full of problems, and silence and the concealment of concerns are one of them. Rudy Francisco’s publication is a must-read because it reveals the essence of silence and can develop in everyone the ability to share experiences without fear of being ridiculed or unheard.
Work Cited
Zidarević, Maja. “Slam Poetry in Translation: Rudy Francisco’s Speeches.” Poetry, vol.1, no, 2, 2020, pp. 22-32.