A healthy family can be described as a family where all members are generally satisfied with the relationships they have with each other. There are many different factors that affect the relationships and the overall family climate. Sometimes even seemingly small things can have a great influence that should not be underestimated.
One of the important characteristics of a healthy family is appreciation. When family members regularly show each other appreciation and support it adds greatly to a positive family atmosphere. As noted by Stinnett and DeFrain (2014), “The good feelings tend to flow back and forth among members” (p. 59). It does not mean that family members should never criticize each other, but they should do it in a constructive and positive manner. It is also important to thank other family members for small, everyday tasks they do and things they contribute to the family.
In an unhealthy family, either a lack of communication or extremely and exclusively negative communication can be a serious problem. Conflict is a normal part of the family life, and it should not be avoided. However, a family also should not be in a constant state of tension. Most dysfunctional families tend to lean to one of the extremes, either always fighting or not communicating at all, because of the fear of conflict or just indifference (Stinnett & DeFrain, 2014). Some other families only discuss things out of necessity but do not have genuine conversations, which is also unhealthy and detrimental to a family climate.
Communication just might be the key to help the family where the son is breaking curfew and is doing poorly in school. It is important to communicate in an open and positive manner and encourage good behavior by showing appreciation. Also, a conversation should not simply be a tool for resolving conflict, but should rather be a way for the family members to enjoy each other’s company.
Reference
Stinnett N., & DeFrain J. (2014). The healthy family: Is it possible? In M. J. Fine (Ed.), The second handbook on parent education: Contemporary perspectives (53-77). San Diego, CA: Academic Press.