There is a common social belief that generally women are better parents than men and the previous experiences show that this has led to certain consequences. Of course, it would be brutal and unreasonable to state that there are no males, who can raise the children better than females, therefore I will not say that in all cases women are better parents than men, as ideally, the child should get the equal attention from both parents in order to get the proper upbringing, but in the majority of cases it is possible to say so. In the given paper I will prove the established before the statement that in most cases women are better parents than men.
In order to be reasonable and just it is necessary to regard the weak and the strong sides of both parties concerning this dispute, and how those weaknesses and advantages may affect the child. The fathers are traditionally imagined to be the money earners, who spend all their time working in order to provide their family with the necessary costs for living. Therefore, one can suggest that they do not have enough spare time for the upbringing of their kids, thus the latter ones may psychologically feel themselves short of fathers’ participation in their affairs, attention, love, and care.
But nowadays, certain social changes appeared in society, and women can be seen earning money from the early morning till the late night as well as men. So, it might be suggested that the above-described situation, when the child is left without care and attention, can also happen with the female parent. Nevertheless, looking around, one may firmly assert that still, the majority of the working parents are males; therefore, they can not spend enough time communicating with their children.
Because of historical and social reasons, women are likely to be regarded as much more forgiving and caring than men. Of course, it would be wrong to state that males are incapable of having such inner qualities, as everything depends on the personality of the parent. In some cases, women’s parents can act with their children even worth than strangers. But, nevertheless, the various polls and public opinions proved that females are likely to forgiving and caring.
One may assert that those qualities are necessary, especially when dealing with the kids who unintentionally get into trouble, and they are afraid to tell their parents about that because of the fear that they will not understand and forgive them. In this case, the female parent is capable of providing her kid with the necessary understanding and forgiveness, which helps to avoid the psychological trauma in childhood, and thus, problems in the future that could have been caused by such trauma.
The men tend to be stricter with discipline and demand this from their children. This personal quality is also defined by historical and social factors. It is impossible to state that the discipline is unnecessary, but one may suggest that it is not a crucial element in the upbringing process. It even can be stated that the blind parent’s request for discipline from the child, may lead to psychological trauma, because the kid may become unsociable and reserved. Therefore, one may suggest that the discipline should be not very strict, but mixed with understanding and penetration of the parents, and women fit perfectly for the fulfillment of this task.
Another sad, but demonstrative example in defense of the view that females are better parents than males, is the issue of single mothers and fathers. It can not be stated that the men are not capable of bringing up their children perfectly, as numerous experiences showed that single fathers created happy and comfortable family conditions for their kids. Nevertheless, it is a well-known fact that in the majority of divorce cases, courts decide in favor of women, but maintain visits from men.
Of course, everything depends on the particular circumstances in every single case. But one can firmly agree with this, because of all of the above-provided arguments, moreover, one considers the visits of men (fathers) as a necessary condition for the mental health of the children, in order to avoid some future confusions or uncomfortable situations, and therefore, probable psychological traumas.
Following this, one may say that even in families, where children have both mother and father, the participation of parents in the upbringing process is not equal. Of course, every single case depends on various circumstances and shades, but as the practice shows, the common social belief that generally women are better parents than men seems to be rather convincing.