Some people argue, that the process of the children enthralling by their parents, usually starts from early childhood. The fact is that it can not be regarded as slavery. Parents just often try to graft to children their own point of view, their own style of life, and the way of solving the appearing problems. Regarding the issues of children’s enthralling by their parents, it is necessary to mention, that this process often takes place in the concealed form, as parents just chase to simplify the adaptation of their children to real and severe life. Of course, this slavery is symbolic, as children often grow highly dependent on their parents, and any decision in their lives is often taken on the basis of their parents’ advice, or family discussion. The fact is that there is nothing harmful in the advice or discussions, but children just should be taught to take their own, independent decisions, but not rely on the point of view of their parents. It is necessary to mention, that taking the decision needs to be a well-planned process, and parents, considering that decision planning and decision-solving is the obvious thing, but the children can not guess about it until they face the obvious necessity. It happens so, parents, never minding it, make their children “blind”. As it has been argued above, they are blind in their lives, and their eyes open only after facing severe reality.
The matter of creating autonomy for the children is rather arguable. Outlining the previous discussions, it is necessary to highlight, that children need to be taught to be independent, but on the other hand, parents chase to help and shield their kids from all the possible assaults of life. Taking into account the very desire of many parents to grow their kids independent, they continue taking the decisions for them. Parents – especially mothers – find it difficult to unite child-rearing with their attempts in the superior world. For some, the nervousness is chiefly emotional – they feel ragged among family and profession and never appear to discover the correct equilibrium. But for lots, the clash has a firmer frame: it pits financial requirements alongside a child’s need for discussion, for pastime, for proximity.
This matter has grown gradually more stubborn because of varying social anticipations about paternity. In the past, child-growing up was a financial deal as much as an expressive undertaking: children offered a small squad of workers for the ranch or plant and a monetary evade not in favor of sickness, disability, and aging. But technical and community modification have decreased the financial recompenses of child-bringing while imposing sharply augmented requirements on parents. Nowadays, the community anticipates parents to do the rigorous work of adapting children for life – to oversee an extensive stage of schooling and to give precedence to their children’s requirements for nearly two decades. As a consequence, paternity has become a particularly requiring community role, claiming an absolute reformation of economic and individual lives. These growing requirements have led some to call for a more bighearted social strategy in sustaining child-rearing.
References
Ernest Becker The Birth and Death of Meaning Free Press publisher. 1971.