Introduction
Death as a phenomenon inevitably leaves an imprint on a person’s mental and physical state. Unfortunately, experiencing the death of a loved one is even more complicated than an abstract death. One always wants to prolong time with someone one has lost, but it is impossible, which is why death is such a challenging event. Death is hard for everyone, especially when it affects their family. Facing death is an ordeal because it leads to nervousness, prolonged sadness, and pain of loss.
Nervousness and Prolonged Sadness
First, facing death is an ordeal because there is nervousness after a loss. It leads to an altered perception of reality, in which one is exposed to dangers in the form of illness or a car accident. The nervousness is kept at a high level, preventing one from functioning and adequately perceiving difficulties and obstacles. I believe it relates to the fear of death, which develops and strengthens after experiencing a loss. The person needs to come to terms with death but is worried that something terrible will happen to him or other loved ones. The fear of being alone further likely increases our nervousness, which is why it becomes so hard for us after the loss of someone.
Prolonged Sadness
Second, facing death is an ordeal because after a loss person gets prolonged sadness. It is a normal feeling after death because we long for the person who has died. Our sadness is an attempt to cope with anxiety and negative expressive emotions. I think it is essential for us to have time to grieve and be sad because losing a dear person is challenging, regardless of the conditions. Even prerequisites (for example, illness) will not diminish sadness after death because we are deprived of some good stuff. Prolonged sadness is a time for reflection and remembrance of good moments together.
Pain of Loss
Third, facing death is an ordeal because we feel the pain of loss. I faced the death of a loved one not too long ago, so the memories are still fresh and evoke unpleasant memories. In 2009, my grandmother had breast cancer: a horrible disease that can nevertheless go into remission. Nevertheless, the cancer came back, and the disease began to progress-the horrible disease affected the family. Cancer took over the bones and the eye, followed by the discovery of stomach cancer. It was scary because the disease was progressing, and my grandmother needed chemotherapy every two weeks. We were all afraid for her and tried to spend time together, but we still lost her. In July 2020, we went on a trip to Eufaula: it was hard, but we supported each other. We lost her in September 2020, which is a bad time for everyone. The death affected us, and it took us a long time to recover, but we had to cope with the misfortune. Memories of the loss were gradually replaced only by good moments with Grandma, but the death was still hard on us.
Conclusion
Nervousness, prolonged sadness, and pain of loss are reasons why death is an ordeal. The experience of facing death occurred a couple of years ago when my grandmother died. The debilitating illness and difficult treatment undermined our mental stability, but we still tried to support each other. The death left an imprint on me because I lost a loved one. I believe the most valuable thing about this experience is recognizing the transience of time and trying to create as many good moments as possible with loved ones.