Life on the Earth is impossible without effective and clear communication between men and women. It is an obvious fact which cannot be doubted. However, there is a problem which has been actual throughout all history of humanity. It is the problem of mutual understanding between representatives of the opposite sex. The history of humanity counts for many centuries and they should have learned how to do that. However, the problem remains. Men and women communicate differently and misunderstandings occurring in the process of communication can lead to severe consequences which can result in great problems connected with the survival of humanity.
First of all it should be said that the problem lies in physiological sphere. It is known how important for woman is to know everything about her man in order to share his problems or feelings, trying to help him somehow. However, this is where the difference lies. “Men keep their problems to themselves and don’t see the point in sharing personal issues.” (Lieberman, n.d., para. 8). It is totally unclear for women which prefer to share everything with people close to them. Valuating mens unwillingness to share their problems as mistrust women can be deeply offended. In their turn men are often irritated with womens constant desire to talk and pour their problems on them.
The second difference is connected with the previous one and lies in the realization of the main purpose of communication which comes from the peculiarities of mens and womens brain. The mens idea of the communication lies in fact that “communication should have a clear purpose” (Drobnick, n.d., para. 3). There is no need talking if everything is clear and understandable. However, it does not work with women. Their brain is known to be more emotional then rational mens brain. Women are created to be loving mothers and support their children with care and warm feelings while men should decide more pragmatic problems by their pragmatic brain. That is why women use communication as a tool for sharing their emotions and establishing some certain level of intimacy. For this reason certain lack of understanding can rise between men and women.
And one more reason responsible for occurring problems in communication between men and women is the way they perceive the reaction to their words. It is again connected with psychology. Men are less emotional that is why they need much less attention or signs of appreciation of their words. Some slight nod of head or just a scanty smile of acceptance will be enough for them. Women on the contrary need very emotional and obvious signs that their words are appreciated or they will be deeply offended. Womens demand to watch right on them while they are talking is widely known. In other way they consider their interlocutors to be not interested in what she says. Men do not understand this demand, as they can perfectly perceive everything doing some other mechanical actions.
Having outlined only several of differences in the way men and women talk it is possible to come to conclusion that they really do communicate differently and often it becomes the reason for some further problems in relations. That is why it is very important for them to get to know about the peculiarities of the communication of different sex and be more tolerant to them. The future of the planet depends on the success of this communication as men and women should build it together.
Reference List
Drobnick, R. (n.d.). 5 Ways Men & Women Communicate Differently. Web.
Lieberman, S. (n.d.). Differences in Male and Female Communication Styles. Web.