It can be argued that women are more concerned with choosing a physically strong spouse, capable of physical protection, and financially capable of providing a secure environment during the mate selection. This notion arises from later developments of Sigmund Freud’s concepts of libido. Freud defined libido as an individual’s psychic and sexual energy. However, the modern understanding of libido implies that it encompasses not just the biological urge to have sex but equally the social and psychological conditions that influence sexual behavior (Cherkasskaya & Rosario, 2019). It is plausible that Freud’s original conception of the word is the root of the current definition. As Freud developed his views, he regarded the libido as a broader life reflex that covers survival impulses and other motives.
Without a doubt, sexual drive evolves during a person’s life. Accordingly, women’s libido is likely to be influenced by the type of men they choose to be their partners. This implies that a woman who has a physically strong man capable of providing physical protection and is financially stable will have a higher libido than that of others who have the opposite qualities. The qualities mentioned earlier provide a fertile environment for women to build a stable home without mental stressors. For example, being with a man who is not physically strong may lead to social problems such as loneliness, dysfunctional relationships, and interpersonal difficulties, which can significantly decrease libido. Likewise, a woman who is not offered physical protection and is constantly abused by her partner will have low libido. Therefore, women are more concerned with finding a strong, protective, and financially stable husband when it comes to mate selection.
Reference
Cherkasskaya, E., & Rosario, M. (2019). The relational and bodily experiences theory of sexual desire in women. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 48(6), 1659–1681. Web.