Communication is an interaction between people, and it is an inseparable part of our everyday life. Sometimes we take interaction with other people for granted and do not understand what great role communication plays in our everyday activities. Interaction with people makes us parts of society.
Moreover, successful communication makes a valuable contribution to our future development. We all appreciate our relationships with parents, friends, colleagues, and teachers. But sometimes, our actions and emotions can be the obstacles that interrupt our communication.
One of such emotions is anger. I believe that every person noticed that it is very difficult to control anger and this feeling is the one that affects communication the most. Few persons are perfect in communication. However, it is the skill that we should work on to become better communicators.
From my own experience, I can say that anger can be very destructive. It can harm our relations with close people and, what is more important, our inside world. It appears without any warning. I noticed that I become angry when people ignore me, unjust towards me or if there is some conflict.
Being anger, we do not control our emotions and words. Some people cannot even control their behavior. When anger passes, we feel that we were wrong and regret our actions. But rarely if ever we can fix it, and very often our relations with people come to an end.
It is a paradox, but often we offend close people more than unfamiliar ones because we know their week points and say can it during a quarrel.
It is very important to know to control anger, and there are several techniques that can be very helpful. For example, when I feel anger, and I understand that I am going to say something really bad, I count to ten before saying something.
It helps as I have the opportunity to think over my words. Sometimes, I am just trying to take a break from the person and go to my room and listen to music. Some people advice doing physical exercises to release anger. It is also a helpful way.
Humor is a wonderful means to “defuse the situation” it can even help stop the conflict. Also, I always try to be self-aware and think about what I am saying and why.
I try to ‘get into the other’s shoes”; in other words, I try to understand the point of view of the other person. Finally, it is very important to be ready for compromise.
These tactics often help me when I communicate with my friend and relatives. There were many situations when my anger was the reason for a break up with a friend. I very appreciate that I know these tactics because they helped me maintain good relationships with many friends.
Moreover, today I have even more friends. I believe that it is the best motivation to work on myself. I also learned that controlling anger is beneficial not only for my communication but for my well-being and good mood as well.
Improving communication skills is important for every person. It enhances our future development and, what is more important, our relationships with other people.
I learned that self-control, self-awareness, humor and positive thinking could help in controlling anger and developing communication skills.