Personal Understanding of Emotional Intelligence
Watching the video Emotional Intelligence, with Daniel Goleman, it is possible to make a personal opinion about emotional intelligence, however, Daniel Goleman does not firmly state what it is. As for me, I would define emotional intelligence as the ability to react to the situation in a proper way, to find the appropriate way out of a situation, and to make a decision successful for you and surrounding people. Emotional intelligence may be explained as an impulse to do something by the situation. Additionally, emotional intelligence cannot be measured as well as it cannot be fixed at any point.
Five Aspects of Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman points out five aspects of emotional intelligence, self-awareness, emotion management, motivation, empathy, and social skills. Self-awareness is explained as the ability “to feel somewhat from the moment, to moment, to moment” (Emotional Intelligence, with Daniel Goleman n.p.). In other words, self-awareness, as the component of emotional intelligence, can be considered as the feeling, an intuition that helps make appropriate decisions.
Dwelling upon emotion management, Daniel Goleman says that it is an ability to control impulse, to get angry “with the right person, for the right degree, with the right purpose, and in the right way” (Emotional Intelligence, with Daniel Goleman n.p.). To be emotionally intelligent, people should be able to manage their emotions, to control them, to be able to restrain some feelings, and disclose others.
Motivation is the ability to use emotions for motivating oneself. Motivation is related to optimism as only such people can be properly motivated. Empathy is the ability to feel the same emotions as another person and to be able to respond to those.
Social skills mean the art of relationships. This part of emotional intelligence is really powerful, as it makes things different. Having great abilities in communication, you can complete many tasks, you can make people respond to you. As I see this, communication and the ability to go along with people is a guarantee of good relationships, while good relationships is a guarantee of success.
Personal Evaluation within Five Aspects of Emotional Intelligence
I have good skills in self-awareness, as I always follow my intuition. Frankly speaking, I never appear in situations similar to those in the video, when a person predicted that something bad was going to happen, but did not follow emotions. I trust my feelings and that’s why I find myself in an advantageous position. I always succeed, and if I have bad anticipation I do not participate in the affair.
I am not good at emotion management, I cannot restrict myself when I feel that I have to. This is the problem that I should overcome. Sometimes, I react inappropriately to things, words, or events, knowing that nothing positive is going to happen. This is what I mean, when people are discussing something and my opinion is crucial, I always express it, even though I know that if I remain silent, I will get much more in the future. This is one of my greatest disadvantages, the inability to control my emotions. But I try to correct this disadvantage using counting to 10 before reacting to something that may compromise me.
I am an optimistic person, and I do not know how people can live another way. No matter what happens, I always know that it is for good even if it seems that there is nothing worse in the world. It is important to get the best out of the situation and to be motivated for a better outcome. This is right about me. Frankly speaking, I am very empathetic, so consider it my disadvantage rather than an advantage. I do not want to reject the fact that people should be caring, but when such care is the prejudice of personal interests, it is not that great. I suppose I should pay more attention to my benefit, however, it seems too difficult for me. I cannot be egoistic, but there are situations when it seems to me that I have to.
I am good at communicating with people. No matter where I am and how many strange people surround me, I always can offer appropriate problems for discussion. I can get along with people and this feature characterizes me as a person who can achieve success.
The Impact of Emotional Intelligence on Success
Emotional intelligence impacts human success even greater than IQ. According to Daniel Goleman, only 10% to 20% make up human success, while the impact of emotional intelligence is about 80%-90%. Human success lies not only in their knowledge but also in their ability to listen to personal feelings, to handle emotions, to react appropriately to situations, to get motivated, to be able to sympathize, and to communicate with people.
Emotional intelligence is a close connection between the human brain and feelings, their brain, and their actions. The ability to organize five components of emotional intelligence properly is a guarantee of your success. Having understood the problems I have, I can try to cope with them and become a successful person.
Reference List
Emotional Intelligence, with Daniel Goleman. (1999). Digital educational video. Web.