The population is facing a social problem in the form of the collapse of the marriage institution. The role of children in determining the stability or instability of other marriage has clouded the minds of both parents and psychologists. Kids play different roles in marriage, influencing how their parents would relate to each other. The child’s gender may sometimes be involved when discussing the impact of children in marriage.
The father often becomes more emotionally involved with the bearer of his baby. For couples who are not yet married, the period before the child’s birth or just after conception is traditionally the time when marriage arrangements are made. The baby usually stimulates the union, showing how circumstances necessitate matrimony.
There are several temporary demands associated with childcare, including medical bills and school fees. The parenting system also involves physical and emotional demands, necessary for proper social development of children. Sharing these responsibilities occasionally brings tensions between the couple.
After the honeymoon period, the spark, which was typical during courtship, dwindles steadily. The presence of children may either revive those memories or lead to the deterioration of the marriage. Parents develop an emotional attachment to their kids, but this is usually a problem especially if it is at the expense of the relationship. Unfortunately, this has led to the belief in young couples that bearing children would lead to their emotional instability.
The presence of kids may necessitate the couple to have a change in responsibilities. For example, if both parents were working, the mother will usually resign from her work duties in order to promote the emotional attachment necessary for the baby. The father will exclusively become the breadwinner of the home. The marriage may face problems if there is no sharing of responsibilities.
When the father neglects all household duties like continuing to help his wife with some household duties, then the stability of the marriage would be questionable. Sharing of household duties and involvement in the upbringing of the children often increases happiness in a union. However, too much involvement and attention on the kids may create negative effects. When they grow up and head to college or start their own families, it may be difficult for parents to adjust to their usual lives of being in a relationship.
Despite having both constructive and depressing effects, the positive effects of children often outweigh their negative effects in a union. The financial responsibility encountered by parents brings in conflict as the children continue to grow.
Without proper dialogue, money can lead to marriage deterioration. Activities like going out to the club gradually stop as the house gets warmer. At birth, a nanny is required to help in catering for the baby, hence more expenses. More tensions abound in the sharing of responsibilities, and the deprivation of freedom which was there before the birth of kids.
The increase in the bond between the couple and the new life experiences include positive effects. The desire to pass proper principles to the children improves the ethical behavior of parents. Kids usually make the union complete, especially for couples who learn from the challenges they experience.
Children would secure positive effects if the marriage was previously healthy. This means the couple has more to share as they face the new challenges. Conversely, an unstable relationship may be more damaged by the admission of kids. If there were previous financial difficulties, then they are bound to intensify. The success of the union also depends on whether both the parents wanted children or it was either of them who made the decision.
Sharing the love and having pride in their children will undoubtedly help couples overcome all challenges, leading to a more fulfilling marriage and greater social advancement. The success of marriage thus depends more on the quality of the relationship of the couple, rather than the presence of children.