There are so many discussions about marriage and the reasons why people make a decision to get married and to spend the rest of this life together. Some people are really eager to know what makes couples think that marriage should have grounds because they truly believe that marriage is something people get involved in unconsciously and being in love with each other.
In addition, some people still believe that marriage is a serious contract between two people who have already weighed a number of pros and cons of an idea of living together and that love should not be the only reason to make this decision. In fact, love has to become a considerable basis for relations between people and a guide that control the development of such relations.
But still, love only is not enough to create a powerful and happy family. Many other things and thoughts have to be taken into consideration before marriage is legalized. Marriage is a complex of steps, emotions, and thoughts of two people who feel that the time to unite their souls, bodies, and lives has come, and this unit should take place on legal, emotional, personal, and many other levels.
Different people may have different points of view about marriage and the reasons which people prefer to rely on. First, people should cherish kindly feelings to each other and develop this sympathy properly. Second, people in love need to take care of the conditions under which they live in order to be satisfied with them. And finally, to create good marriage, people have to learn to respect each other’s feelings, needs, and interests but still do it not at the expense of personal demands.
Marriage is a step that considerably changes the lives of many people. These people are not only those two humans who fall in love and cannot imagine their lives far from each other. Marriage touches upon the lives of these lovers’ families and friends. The role of parents is crucial for children. Even if there is an opportunity to live separately and become independent, children still have some emotional dependence on parents’ decisions. This is why marriage may also depend on parental support and understanding.
Many people state that love is the only powerful reason for them to get married. In my opinion, these people are just weak or even lazy to search for some other reasons why it is possible to get married. It is hard to believe that they do not want to consider such factors like living wages, styles of life, past life, each other’s families, etc. Success in marriage may be determined by a number of factors, and love is not always a key to it.
There are so many countries where marriages are organized by parents, and children (usually females) cannot choose a person to get married but can rely on their parents’ tastes and wishes. To create a powerful family, people do not find it necessary to rely on love, its charms, and its outcomes.
In such cases, they take some financial aspects, personal relations, and business affairs into consideration. On the one hand, such an attitude to marriage and its basics can make marriage powerful and properly organized. On the other hand, people forget about the importance of feelings and emotions which are usually inherent to people.
Some romanticists admit that marriage should not be based on an idea that you can live happily with a person but marriage should be based on an idea that you cannot continue living without a person. Though this reason sounds amazing and very romantic, nowadays people should also consider the importance to find a place where to live and be able to earn money for living. People do not live in a fairytale where it is unnecessary to go for work in order to buy some food and pay for accommodations.
Current life is cruel enough to make people forget about romance and love as the only reason to get married. Those people who still believe in romance should not judge such attitude to love and the idea of marriage but do accept it as another vision of this life. Of course, it is difficult to build a good marriage without love but still, it is foolish to trust this feeling only.
Nowadays people are free to choose any style of life, however, they have to admit the fact that conditions for a living are not always as comfortable and appropriate as some people get used to thinking. Such notions like marriage and love should always go together, but people have to smart enough to arrange priorities in time.
This is why only in case a person feels that he/she is ready to get married, it is time to create a new family. And this readiness should be defined by a variety of factors like trust, desire, money, business, personal satisfaction, and, of course, love that helps to see the essence of this life and accept it as it is.