Thesis Statement
A man is not as complicated as he actually appears, all he needs is to feel secure and to have the feeling that he can believe in his woman totally.
What does a man want?
A man loves looking out for his women, to the point that he can pamper his manliness, just the same way he looks up to women who appear confident and strong, emotionally. When a woman runs to her man when encountered with problems every now and then, the man might show sympathy and even offer a shoulder to cry on, but this does not last for long.
It is good when the woman shares her problems with the man and together they work on solving it, however, it is important for the woman to know when it is too much, as it is due to this reason that many relationships fail. Thus, when a woman learns to solve problems by herself it makes her man proud of her (Lewis 59).
In addition, just like women, a man loves to be looked after. A wife or a girlfriend should know that her man’s mother, looks at him like her baby. The man can deny it as much as he can, however, he loves it when his mother is around, and when he looks for a girlfriend or a wife, he looks for one that has the same, or almost the same qualities like those of her mother. That is the reason some men are referred to as, ‘mamma’s boy’ (Barker 85).
A man also enjoys it when his woman balances pampering him with competition and excitement. Furthermore, it is hard for a man to guess what his woman wants. This is because the levels of intuition in him are not the same as those of the woman (Geraldo 27). It is then advisable for a woman to tell her man what she is thinking as opposed to letting him discover all by himself. It might never come to that, and so the woman should do it to avoid feeling miserable.
Regardless of his intuition being poor, a man knows it when his woman is manipulating or controlling him (Geraldo 27). When a woman resorts to manipulative and controlling games, her man usually starts blocking his feelings or sometimes hides them. This most of the time causes violent explosions or emotional breakdowns. In order to be happy and maintain happiness in a man when in a relationship, the woman should be considerate and honest. When respected, a majority of men are capable of being amazing individuals.
Moreover, a man always needs his space. It is good to respect that. A woman should give his man enough space to breathe as well as do the ‘ things that guys do.’ It is good to let him indulge with his boys during his night outs. Ultimately, if he is in a relationship that is secure, he will all the time long for his woman’s comfort and snuggle, and will desire to go back home to her.
Men and women are from different planets, and this may be the reason why many relationships work. A man and a woman can be compared to two lines, that despite being straight, intersect somewhere at the end. One cannot do with the other, and one cannot do without the other. Indeed, this can be considered one of creations lovely piece (Batthyany et al 180).
What is in the mind of a man regarding Love and Respect
Women want to be loved. A woman wants to feel that she is loved every time and if she is not regularly reminded, (not just by words, but also emotionally) she tends to feel like she is unwanted. This is in contrast to how a man feels. When it is true that he wants to be loved, respect is more important to him.
A woman should never question her man’s position in the house (Geraldo 39). That shows disrespect and it becomes equal when the man fails to show love. A woman should never disrupt when the man is correcting the children because to the man it signifies extreme disrespect.
What a man thinks about Sex
A man desires to be desired truly, by means of sex. When a woman makes a man feel like she is making love to him just because it is an obligation, it really turns the man off. This is because most men are satisfied when they know their women are satisfied. That way they feel more confident. When a man is rejected, it becomes very hard for him. He thinks that when he is told no to sex, it is just the same as being told he is not wanted all together (Lewis 72).
The image in a man’s mind
A woman can see a good-looking man and forget it within a very short time. Men, alternatively, tend to store images in their ‘pictorial’ memory. When they notice a pretty woman, the image can be kept in their mind’s hard drive, for several months. This is not their fault as it is how they are created.
It is the basic reason as to why women are advised to dress modestly. What men want when they look at pornography is not necessarily the body of the woman, but the woman’s face. This is because the eyes of the woman have the look that says ‘I want you’, which is what they desire, to be wanted and needed (Gurian 129).
What is in a man’s mind about a woman’s outfit?
Many men will deny it when asked of what they find admirable amongst a woman’s outfit. However, a man is best identified as the ‘sex visual’ (Hasan 129). According to Imam, to a man, what a woman is putting on can be used to know what kind of woman she is. During a man’s adolescence, a man undergoes a moment whereby he starts to develop a liking for a particular type of dressing in a female.
Some men prefer women in underwear with no-frills because they consider such women confident as they let their bodies speak for themselves. Others like it when a woman is in lingerie, mini-dresses, and heels. Overall, men’s preferences are due to their uniqueness (Gurian 130).
While a woman is inclined to hide what she perceives as an imperfect body, a man does not see that as important. Imam identifies that a woman might see another woman’s body as imperfect, while a man fails to notice that, but notices a woman in whom he has fallen for. Unsurprisingly, all men tend to be the same in one thing, they admire a woman’s clothing that does not only bring out the woman’s shape, but also the curves that come with it, which bring out the femininity in her, thereby pleasing what they see (Leman 178).
What a man admires seeing a woman putting on
- Imam identifies that, a man likes to see a woman in tight jeans, pencil skirts, and tight dresses. This is because a man likes to perceive that under those clothes is a body, no matter how imperfect it is (Barker 92).
- Jumpsuits and belted dresses are also their popular choices.
- To Imam, most men like it when a woman is putting on a classic fitting black dress.
- If its casual wear, then it has to be fitting such that the body shape is noticeable. If she opts for jeans, then they have to be the skinny ones, but have to be worn together with shoes that are high, as opposed to flat.
- A simple vest is also considered nice on a woman. If she opts for a top, men like it when she leaves a bit of her cleavage out.
- Some men consider seductive underwear to please in parties.
- Most men like heels because they think that they enhance height, and most of all, flatter the body, when a woman is walking. The most admired shoe to men is the ‘almond’ toe.
- Some men find jewelry on a woman attractive, however most men do not like it when a woman wears so many of them. Many will find it attractive when a woman puts on simple earrings, necklaces, and bracelets. However, women with so many piercings are disliked as they are considered, prostitutes.
What a man dislikes seeing on a woman
- Men hate women in gladiator sandals. This is because they consider them as outdated.
- Tunics and smocks are considered as a big ‘no’. Generally, any long garment that camouflages, hides, or shrouds according to many men, makes a woman appear pregnant.
- Capri pants are considered to make a woman look stupid.
- Oversized shades are considered as “ridiculous.”
- Wearing plenty of makeup is considered an enormous mistake. No man prefers a woman who has a lot of make-up. In fact, many of the men consider women being most attractive to look at when they are somewhat undone.
What a man thinks
According to Imam, the following is what the outfit of a woman says to men.
- Imam identifies that to a man, a woman who proclaims of wearing designer clothes is insecure or just shallow minded. Some men consider women who find labels as a priority, to be lost. Consistent to Imam, some flee when they notice a woman with designer tags, as they get worried about their balance on their credit cards, in case they start dating.
- Most men consider women with high heels as “high-maintenance” (Leman 182). To a woman, stilettos are a source of power and encouragement. However, in a man’s mind he wonders how much fun she can be having standing while balancing on a six-inch bar. Some men are even worried when walking on the streets with their women on the six-inch shoes as they walk supporting them, so as not to twist their ankle. In the man’s mind at that moment is the worry of having to spend all the night inside the emergency room.
- Though some men find it appealing when a woman puts on sexy clothes the environment and circumstance where she puts them on is important to them. Some are worried about their prospective dates wearing minis on an outing with their colleagues because they are worried of how their colleagues will judge them.
- To a man, according to Imam, red lips are a symbol of a powerful, contented, and competent woman. A man is so much attracted to a woman with red lipstick such that when he looks at them he just waits for her to say anything, and he obliges.
A man knows best, the way a woman is required to dress since he fantasizes about a woman every time. The clothes that a woman puts on, to a man, define the kind of lifestyle she leads, how confident she is with her body, and therefore how much she can expose. In addition, the classiness and fashion of a woman, to a man, can be defined by her hairdo and makeup. Moreover, the taste and kind of personality that she has can be defined by the choice she makes when it comes to cologne and heels.
A woman who is aware of the way to carry a ‘powerful dressing’ in a womanly way is found to be extremely hot, by a man (Hasan 133). A woman in male dress tops to a man is beautiful and powerful. In addition, she is found seductive and feminine. Imam identifies that the women in these kinds of clothes, to men, are clever and have great elegance. They are aware of how to command a situation no matter how hard (Geraldo 52)
Men like seeing women in a 4-inch maximum heel. They consider anything longer than that weird. However, despite being in fashion nowadays, women in jumpsuits are disliked. In addition, women with lighter shades of makeup and a slight contour are found fascinating. In accordance to Imam, men do not like a woman who puts on so much foundation on their face, and puts on very funny hairstyles (Geraldo 54).
Overall, when a man likes a woman, he likes every bit of her. He also wants her to appreciate herself. Therefore, to a man, if a woman puts on garments that do not reveal her shape, the man worries that she might not be comfortable in it, and thereby loose her natural beauty due to embarrassment.
The most beautiful thing to a man regarding a female is the body, its lines, and silhouette (Gurian 157).So, men do not like when women cover themselves so much. However, a woman should wear what she feels comfortable in, and her man will appreciate it. In the end, a woman should appear her best. If one is comfortable in her skin and her body, she is on a captivating streak. Any messages a man might read on a woman’s clothing can be outmoded by her inner glow, a smile, coolness, as well as poise.
What a man thinks about a relationship
In case a man fails to give a name to repeated intimate and social interactions, it is a simple sign that he is unprepared for a long-term relationship. For a majority of males, a title comes with a lot of pressure, accountability and responsibility. When couples fail to live according to the expectations arguments are bound to occur, and eventually, the relationship, for one or both partners, can lack fun.
In such a situation, it becomes important for the woman to evaluate how she sees herself in the man’s future. This is because in relationships (mostly those that have been there for sometime) dramatic, intense, and life altering circumstances, can occur anytime. This is the reason a majority of the men prefer the ‘friends with benefit’ situation (Hasan 176).
Consequently, as most men get bored with such kind of a relationship, the outcome depends on the woman’s decision as to what kind of relationship she wants. If she wants the ‘friends with benefit’, or a concrete relationship then it is her choice to make. Either way, the woman cannot force the man to do something, which he has not made up his mind to do.
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