The way people communicate is extremely important, especially in a marriage, as individuals can get lost in the routine and daily responsibilities. An article “Can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in happy marriages” examines the issue of what happens to couples and how to avoid the distancing that takes over the relationship.
One of the most problematic areas for married couples is the content of their conversation. It must be centered on their individuality and personal problems. People must look deeper, past the surface of the daily duties that involve children, family matters and work.
They must disclose personal information and this will lead to proper communication and understanding. It is very possible to relate to the article and advice given because in the modern world, people often get preoccupied with the fast pace that is required by their work, responsibilities and necessities of life (Sole, 2011).
From a personal point of view, there have been several times when a situation did not get resolved due to a simple misunderstanding. For example, a choice of restaurant was offered and a person who offered the type of restaurant did not really see the difference between many kinds of places.
Their partner did not want to offend their choice and so, had to go with the offered location. Once there, the setting was not very well established and the couple had a mediocre experience. Once they got home, it turned into a minor argument where one was displeased with the place and was asking for the reasons of such a poor selection.
The person who offered that specific restaurant did not really care for the setting and so, this situation could have been avoided if both expressed their attitude towards the location. If the person displeased with the setting had honestly admitted about their dislike, a different selection of the restaurant could have been made.
This shows how important it is to express personal feelings. Even if there is a possibility that a person might get slightly offended, it is better to try to do it in the most kind and respectful way, as to explain own reasons and state why they do not prefer a certain choice. This would help avoid a much greater conflict and argument. Self disclosure is very important in a relationship because it allows people to express their inner emotions and likes, which will help people to get to know each other better.
Also, it will aid individuals to adjust to the interests and be able to predict what can and cannot be done in a certain situation. The similarities between genders are very obvious. Both men and women appreciate affection and honesty. Attention that is paid to details goes a long way and helps find a common ground. Both males and females have specific taste preferences for food and favorite drinks.
The amount of common likes and dislikes is enormous but most of all, both genders need and look for love and understanding from their partner. Generalizations in relation to communication are common for all. People should involve themselves in conversations more, as well as personal sharing (Schoenberg, 2011).
The human ability to transfer understanding and ideas to others is extremely important, especially in marriage and any other relationship. People should engage each other to share and relate to common interests and themes.
References
Schoenberg, N. (2011). Can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in happy marriages. Washington, United States: McClatchy – Tribune News Service.
Sole, K. (2011).Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, United States: Bridgepoint Education, Inc