Sex is essential part of every marriage. The modern world is too sexual, adolescents pay too much attention to sexual relations, without considering the notion of love. Sex between wife and husband is not only the norm now, but the security of good and lasting family relations. Unfortunately, the institution of marriage has endured some changes. Personal dignity and virginity is not so important. The problem of the modern married couples is that the notion of sex became the dominant in the relations and the faithfulness in the family is not in honor now.
The obsolete concept about sex was regarded as the continuation of clan, people made sex in ancient times only with this purpose. But modern world has changed and people understand sex now as the satisfaction, orgasm, and only then as the clan continuation. Married people make sex in spite of the fact whether they want children or not, moreover, in most cases they are uneager to have children after this or that sex procedure. Sexual relations make the aim the feelings, the tense contact between people and do not think about children.
Sex between husband and wife is the essential part of the relations inside the family, but not the only one. There are marriages which take as the basis the relations, the care and friendly love. These people create marriage just to communicate without any sexual relations or limited ones. We are not talking about the absence of sex at all, there is no just sex between husband and wife. Such couples seek for sexual satisfaction on the side, but still they return to their wives. I do not quite understand such types of marriages, as the sexual attraction in the family is important for me, but at the same time I do not blame these people. If they live comfortable without the any oppression, so they are satisfied with the marriage.
There are people who think that sex between husband and wife is obsolete, that only people of old behavior remain faithful to their halves. These people consider sex as sport, they “use” it with the only purpose – to enjoy the process and receive physical satisfaction. The problem of moral satisfaction is not of their concern. These people do not feel psychological satisfaction from communication, from prelude to sex, they just enjoy the physical attraction and they feel it is enough for them. To have a lover on the side is not a problem for them, they do not feel that by such actions they can injure the other person feelings. These people live according to their rules and, according to which the sex with the other person is not the faithlessness, it is just the moment in their life when they felt good and that is all. At the same time these people very painfully bear the moral betrayal what may lead to the divorce.
It is my strong opinion that faithfulness in the marriage is the security for strong and confident relations. Sexual satisfaction is not only the physical enjoyment, it is also the body communication, the intimacy of the souls which is impossible to reach by means of only oral communication. The procedure of sex in only the body contact, it is also the prelude to it, which may be much more important. Sex is not only physical satisfaction, it is also the communication, the cognition of each other, the revelation of some feature which are inaccessible during the every day communication.
One of the reasons for matrimonial faithlessness may be the confidence of one member of the family that sexual games are not the issues for matrimonial bedroom, and looking for thrills these people turn to faithlessness. This consideration is obsolete. There are no any limitations for sex in marriage, vice versa, the relations in several years begin to die and to vary the sexual life of the married couple they are eager to use some kind of sexual stimulators. Masturbation, sexual fantasy, blow-job, and anal intercourse were the indecent signs, disgusting affairs which were considered as a shame in the last century. As it was already mentioned, modern sexual life is varied, and in order to import new feelings to the relations people turn to some specific sexual games, which are aimed just to increase the satisfaction from the sex and not to humble the dignity of other person.
So, modern world is much more sexually oriented than before. People think about sex from younger age and do not just stop on the thinking. The sexual life of married people became more varied with the expansion of sexual facilities, which help to vary sexual life of people in the marriage. Those who consider the sex between wife and husband obsolete are mistaken as sex between the couple is one of the reasons why people live together, why they decided to create marriage. Sexual life of the married couple is the basis for strong and confident marriage as sexual relations are important in the same way as the communication.